Hi I’m Dee (Diane if you wish to be formal). I’m married to Colin who is a shepherd so we live in the middle of nowhere (near Moniaive). We both grew up on farms so this is perfect for us as I love the freedom it gives our children. I am a Mum to 3 children. Callum was born in 2003, Kyle was stillborn in 2005 and Iona was born in 2006. I am a Primary Teacher, only part time at the moment while the kids are still young.
Callum’s pregnancy and delivery had been straightforward so I had high expectations of my second pregnancy. This time I went into labour on my due date and we made our way to the hospital. The midwife couldn’t find a heartbeat so the doctor tried a scan. He then gave us the devastating news, our baby had died. I gave birth to our beautiful son Kyle less than 3 hours later. He had a knot in his cord which had pulled tight due to the cord being wrapped around his neck 4 times.
My family and friends were very supportive but I felt the need to talk to others who understood. Dumfries Sands were in the process of getting up and running when I was pregnant for the third time. They supported me through this emotionally difficult pregnancy and celebrated with me when Iona was born safely.
As Iona progressed into a happy healthy toddler I began to realise that I attended Sands meetings less to get support for myself and more to support others. I decided to undertake Sands Befriender training to enable me to be the best supporter I can be. Our experiences may be different but I sympathise because I’ve been there!